Last weekend Father Brunkan gave that same knock me over the head message that I was needing to hear at the exact moment that he gave it…
Father Brunkan told a story of a little boy and his interest in a cocoon that a man had. The man had told the young boy not to touch or bother the cocoon. As time passed the young boy saw the butterfly inside starting to beat its wings against the inside of the cocoon. The young boy panicked and did the opposite of his instructions and broke open the cocoon to help the butterfly get out.
To his amazement the butterfly didn’t flutter away, instead, it dropped to the ground and died. The boy was embarrassed and sheepishly returned to the man.
The man explained to him that the butterfly NEEDED to struggle and beat its wings against the cocoon to build the strength to survive outside of the cocoon.
The first thing that popped into my head-Parenting! As parents, there are so many times that we want to just fix things for our kids, especially when they are living in our homes (cocoons). It is so hard to watch them make bad decisions, big mistakes, and get their hearts broke.
It would be SO easy to talk to that coach for them, call that teacher, or chew out that other kid that stomped on their precious heart. BUT, that does not help them build their wings and fly. As hard as it is to witness sometimes, we have to let our children flap their wings and struggle. If we as parents don’t let them struggle they will never, ever be able to fly on their own.
Then I thought about was myself. There have been SO many times that I have asked why? Asked the question about why certain things have happened in my life. Why Crohn's? Why meningitis? Why have I had to lose good people in my life?
I guess the why might be to strengthen my wings. Had I not been through all of my health struggles I might not be such an understanding person. Had I not had meningitis I might have chosen to live my life in a different manner and not be a person that focused on dreaming big and huge. The struggle has gotten me where I needed to be today!
Lastly, I started thinking about our agriculture community. We have been hit hard! I would venture to guess that most farmers and ranchers would tell you that they don’t feel like a butterfly trying to flap their wings to strengthen them, but they feel like the butterfly that is trying to remove itself from the grill of a Chevy that was driving down a blacktop in rural Iowa.
It’s hard, EVERYONE is asking why. Why so much rain? Why floods? Why the prices? While I don’t know the answer to why I do know that there is no better community to witness coming together than the agriculture community.
In hard times and time of loss of life, farmers and ranchers, resemble a roost of monarchs coming together and those farmers will beat their wings just as hard as those monarchs headed south to help a neighbor in need.
I pray that we continue to keep that same courage to keep flapping through this hard season of life, encouraging each other to look ahead and I know buried deep somewhere there is a plan to make us all stronger by beating our wings through it.
About our Guest Blogger, Jennifer Schmitt:
Jennifer Schmitt was born and raised in rural Iowa. She is a country girl, beef lover, wife, mom of two girls, and a special education consultant. Jennifer enjoys writing stories that include bits and pieces of her childhood memories and the new memories she is making with her own children.
She loves hiding little hints of rural Iowa within her books, some of those hidden things may be little small-town secrets, but some may be nationally known. When Jennifer isn’t working at her day job you can find her spending time outdoors with her family on their farm in Iowa or blogging at www.tailsfromthegravelroad.com